Thursday 6 June 2013

Change

If you want to change something about yourself or your life, the firs step is to take stock of the current situation. What is it that you'd like to change? We are in charge of yourselves, our actions, our thoughts and feelings and are not in charge of others. We can only change ourselves. So if your change involves others, then it is best to change what you do in relation to those others. Others may then do something differently as a byproduct of that change.

Change doesn't happen overnight. It occurs bit by bit in the present and takes time to put into place. Especially if you are trying to change how you behave, it may take about a month of consciously thinking and behaving in the new way until it becomes an automatic response.

Sometimes te process of change may seem scary. And it may be simpler to not change. However if you change you are still going to be you. You will just be behaving in a different way, and doing different things. You are more than your behaviour, your thoughts, and your feelings. The whole, the you, is much greater than the sum of all the parts.

When thinking about what to change it is helpful to consider what is happening in your life right now. What areas of your life are going well? What areas would you like to improve? Areas that you can think about are wrk/career, health, relationships/family/friends, finances, hobbies/interests, work/life balance and personal growth. Maybe you would like to declutter your home but have an issue with finding the time and motivation to engage in this behaviour. Perhaps you'd like to become more assertive with your family, partner and friends.

Thinking about what to change at the start wll help you to set the right goals for change. If you can get the planning right then it is more likely that you will be successful in reaching your goals.

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